On Being My Kids' Mom
Posted By: Kate Marsh Lord
Kate Marsh Lord is the mom of three young and very energetic kids: a 5 year old son, a 3 year old daughter and a “surprise” bonus baby boy born in March of 2012.
As I cuddle with my two month old and admire his beautiful little face I’m reminded that Mother’s Day isn’t really about me. It’s about them, my kids. It’s a celebration of the fact that my most important job is to be their mom. And there’s no arguing that it is a difficult job.
Mother’s Day is a yearly reminder to thank us moms and all the hard work we do every.single.day, but it feels odd to celebrate this year because I know that I have not been at my best. As it turns out, I’m not so good at having 3 kids under 5. I lose my temper and yell, we eat take out and fast food too often, our house always messy, my oldest spends too much time on the iPad, my daughter doesn’t listen to a word I say and my infant only sleeps when I hold him.
My kids are learning and growing and changing in every moment and it’s my job, as their mom, to make them the best little people they can be. To teach, guide, love and support them as they grow. And most days I feel like I’m failing.I love them so much that I wish better for them than kid’s meals and a frazzled, angry mom.
Clearly post partum hormones do not help the situation.
But, the most wonderful thing about being a mom is that a child can wash away all the guilt and frustration in an instant. Like when my 2 month old puts nursing on hold for a moment to look up and smile at me. Or when I sneak in to kiss my sleeping 3 year old and she reaches up to give me a hug, whispering “Mama.” Or when my son lovingly describes our family. It helps to think that even if I’m not the best mom, they’re doing okay. And so am I.9:00am on Thursday May 10
You are a mom who loves her children and, at the end of the day, THAT is what they need
most. Clean houses are boring, kids will need to use technology, and independent young ladies will be leaders.
I have 3 children exactly the same age (and genders)! I understand how you feel. But children need three things from their parents: Love, Education and Discipline. Not gourmet meals. Not a neat as a pin house. In fact, they probably don't want these things :) And when things calm down, you will manage to have these things occasionally. BReastfeeding is one of the best things you can do for your baby, both short and long term. Keep that in mind and it puts it all in perspective. One day you will miss the toys laying around and that special nursing time, and no fabulously prepared meal or sparkling clean house will be able to replace it. Happy Mother's Day!