Breastfeeding in Public is Not For Me

Lisa Steinke

Posted By: Lisa Steinke

Lisa had her first child at the age of 37. A self-proclaimed 'late bloomer,' Lisa now finds it hard to remember what life was like before her daughter was born.

I’ve never breastfed in public. And I don’t think I ever will.

I don’t think I’m the type to whip it out at Starbucks.

It feels too private, too personal. Something that is for just me, myself and my baby. Not me, myself and the random guy ordering a latte.

In the privacy of my own home I can make the baby more comfortable and certainly I am more comfortable. It’s “our time”. (But don’t get me wrong- if a friend or family member is over, I will nurse in front of them because they are someone I know and trust.) I like the fact that when I breastfeed at home, I don’t have to worry that one of my nipples is inadvertently hanging out.

I guess I’d rather risk my baby getting nipple confusion than have some stranger get confused when they accidentally see my nipple.

And although I know there are plenty of wonderful nursing covers out there, I’m still not sure I’d feel confident enough to use one.

If I have to venture out with the baby during a feeding time, I take a bottle. And it’s no big deal for me to pump and store so I have milk on hand for whenever I need it. At this point, I’ve got it down to a fine science and packing the diaper bag is as intuitive as packing my own handbag.

Fortunately for me and the baby, I’m such an anal retentive organized control freak that I’ve never been without a bottle. I always have more than I need- just in case.

I guess I don’t feel comfortable nursing my baby out in the open. Is that so bad?

I’m not judging other women who do it. More power to the mom who can nurse with abandon. Who will feed her baby anywhere, any time.

It’s just not me. And I’m not sure it ever will be.

Don’t get me wrong. I would never let my baby starve because I didn’t want some guy to get a glimpse of my areola or because I feared some woman would start a Facebook campaign because I nursed in a spot she felt was inappropriate.  But let’s just hope it doesn’t come to that.

And for what it’s worth, the hubs is glad I’m not showing the goods all over town too! The idea of me nursing our daughter in public also makes him uncomfortable and I am definitely going to respect that.

9:00am on Monday July 18
1 comment


6:28pm on Monday July 18

"And for what it’s worth, the hubs is glad I’m not showing the goods all over town too!" Most nursing women that nurse in public do it so discretely no one even knows they are doing it. And certainly would not be "showing their goods" all over town. If you nurse under a cover and in a nice nursing tank top no one should or can see anything at all. There are way more revealing tops out there that "show more goods" than most nursing mothers. I respect your decision to nurse where you feel comfortable, but I honestly don't think some of the comments are necessarily very accurate. From a very conservative mother who did nurse in public but never showed an ounce of skin. In fact, when I nursed I covered more than in most of my everyday clothes.

| | Share
Sign up for the Bravado newsletter


Kara: Breastfeeding Twins
Follow Kara: Breastfeeding Twins
Read More
Jessica: Momma Gone City
Follow Jessica: Momma Gone City
Read More
Emily: DesignHER Momma
Follow Emily: DesignHER Momma
Read More
Kate: The Shopping Mama - View from a multi-tasking mama
Follow Kate: The Shopping Mama - View from a multi-tasking mama
Read More
Kathryn: Candid Insights From the Corner Office
Follow Kathryn: Candid Insights From the Corner Office
Read More

Our Resource Library

Find all you need at your finger tips.
Go to Resource Library

Be the first to know! Sign up to receive special offers, exclusive insider access to new products and content that supports you through pregnancy and nursing.

*First Name:
*Email Address:
*Baby's Due/Birth Date:
*Yes, I'd like to receive your e-newsletter with offers, special
promotions, contests and insider access to new products and
breastfeeding tips.
Items marked with * are required.