Thankful Experiences

Mike Schaffer

Posted By: Mike Schaffer

Your eyes are not deceiving you! Mike Schaffer is here to provide our first-ever male breastfeeding perspective.

‘Tis the season to be grateful, right?

As I look back on what I’m thankful for over the past year, it starts and stops with our baby.

It’s been a truly great year that has seen me take on many new roles and titles. Homeowner. Suburbanite. A director of my company.

But none of them mean as much to me as the title of “father.”

There have been two key transformative moments over the first few months of Hava’s life that have truly made me appreciate everything I have.

The first one occurred minutes after Hava was born.

While the doctors and nurses were still cleaning her and performing tests and standard procedures, Hava needed some warmth and was placed under a warming light. I assured her that everything was going to be OK. And at under one hour of life, she extended her arm in my direction, asking me to hold her hand.

I nearly lost my composure, but kept it together.

A few minutes later, with my wife watching from her bed, Hava reached out for me again.

I quickly realized that fatherhood is a responsibility. Babies are born looking for their parents and it’s our job to take care of them and not let them down. And, most importantly, be there to hold their hand.

The second transformative incident took place just last week.

To me—and probably most folks—all crying babies sound pretty much the same.

As I entered Hava’s daycare to pick her up one evening, just about every baby in the center was having a “moment.” Six babies in the room, all six crying.

How did I know all six were crying?

Because I realized I could actually HEAR my child’s cry over everything else.

It felt like a super power.

I ran to her crib, picked her up and held her tight and she calmed down instantly.

My baby needed me and nothing would stop me from being there for her.

Yes, it’s been a great year and I have a lot to be thankful for. But I get the feeling that I’m just getting prepared for what’s to come.

9:00am on Wednesday November 16


1:58am on Friday November 18

Love it, thanks for sharing as always!

April Pena
1:09pm on Thursday November 17

Mike, Great article! I love reading your perspectives on being a father to Hava & what fatherhood is doing to you. I love that you are an involved dad & that you are "tracking"/"journaling" the journey that you are on. It is refreshing to read about a fathers' point of view, too. As for things to come in the future for you & Hava & even Marissa, yes, there will be many more things to come your way in parenting & being a father to Hava & your marriage! You will handle it with lots of aplomb, your hreat sense of humor, sensitivity & even, grace & humility. Keep up the great work you have been & are doing in this journey of life. Lots of love & hugs to uou, Marissa & Hava!

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