Posted By: Nancy Horn
After struggling with breastfeeding my first two children, I'm extremely optimistic about a more successful experience with my third and hope to make it to at least six months.
Last week, Skylar turned three months old and can now roll over from his back to his stomach, which my other children NEVER did that early. That means bed-sharing is scarier, because he can roll over. When he sleeps, that is. He spends practically all night nursing in bed.
While I love it, I'm not getting much sleep. I can deal with that because it's much better than getting up to make a bottle and I love the closeness we have. But what I'm having a harder time dealing with is that if I need to get up during the night, he's miserable without me. That means I can't get up to go to the bathroom – even if he's in a deep sleep, he wakes up.
More importantly, what do I do when my older son or daughter need me? My 5 year old son Ben got sick this week for three days. It started at 2 am on Sunday night. The instant I got up to see what was happening with Ben, Skylar started screaming and woke my husband up.
The next day, I started trying to change things. I still want to nurse at night, but when he's finished, I've got to put him down - even if it's in the co-sleeper or next to me in the bed. When Skylar was a newborn, I either held him or let him sleep in my nursing pillow. I wanted to try to make the co-sleeper more viable so I switched sides of the bed so I could have the co-sleeper right next to me (it was by my legs before). Then I ordered the co-sleeper extension kit, so it could be flush to our tall bed. My thought that I could keep Skylar in the co-sleeper and nurse him in there. That didn't end up working because there's a ridge and a slight drop down to the mattress. I can hold Skylar's hand when he's in there which actually calms Mr. Fussy down. But when he needs to nurse, I have to bring him back into the bed and he just ends up sleeping there. To make it safer, I put him a sleep positioner, so I can't roll over on him and he can't roll around.
While it's not ideal, it's certainly an improvement. Hopefully he'll actually sleep a whole night in the co-sleeper one of these days.. And I'll be able to get up to go to the bathroom or get up to check on my older children without screaming.1:00pm on Friday January 7