When I was pregnant, I remember being overwhelmed by advice… Making baby decisions can be really tough when all sorts of advice are being thrown your way, on top of all the information out there in books and online resources. The best piece of advice I got was from a co-worker when she said “April, no matter what people say just always trust your instincts.” At the time, I didn’t think this sounded like a very difficult thing to do, but now I get it.
Parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all; every baby is different and I believe now more than ever that every mother is equipped with an instinct, a sixth-sense to know deep down what is best for HER baby. The first few weeks after Aiden’s birth, we relied on help from our moms. I was recovering and it took some time for me to grow into my new “mommy shoes”. I thought that I should listen to the women who were more experienced than I was, who had raised more kids, because after all, I had never done this before. I was afraid of being responsible for this delicate little life and how could I know what was best?
When Aiden was about two weeks old, he got a diaper rash. Who knew that this would break my heart the way it did. I was consumed with getting rid of it. He started getting washed in the sink after every bowel movement (he loved this by the way) and my husband and I started seeking out advice on what products to try for his rash. A nurse from the hospital recommended one brand of ointment so we tried that for a few days… my mom recommended another ointment, mother-in-law bought a powder, and I got lots of other recommendations as well. I took some of the advice, but when a friend of mine asked me if I had tried an anti-fungal cream, this struck a chord with me. I did some research and realized that Aiden’s rash seemed a lot like a yeast infection. Yes, boys can get these too! I had already left a message for the pediatrician but it was Saturday and she wouldn’t be in until Monday. I packed Aiden up and went out to get an anti-fungal cream. His rash cleared up in 24 hours!
This was my first experience as a mother that made me realize ---I can take in all the advice, do the research, but also listen to my intuition to make decisions for my baby. The hardest part has been that other moms take it personal when I don’t go with their advice, but at the end of the day I have to do what I think is best as Aiden’s mom. I’m grateful for the help, and now I know that if you’ve raised 4 kids, that’s great but none of them were Aiden… Deep down, I know what is best because I was given those instincts. I call it God, but you can call it nature, the universe, whatever you wish. We can and will make the right decisions for our children if we just take a moment to stop and listen to that little voice inside and trust our instincts.